The Second Time Around

I’m so grateful that I gave my marriage a second chance. I put myself aside and let God have His way and He is blowing my mind. I think that’s what many of us need to do, just let God be God! I got married, divorced, then remarried to the same person. It’s something that’s not done a lot these days but I’m so glad to be included in the small number of those who did. I definitely learned a lot about myself, mainly how messed up I was. This second time around I have more confidence that I can do all things through Christ! If He tells me to do something I’m doing it. I recognize the authority I have over evil with Christ. Most of the things I’ve been defeated with in life is because I did not know I had authority and power, and I didn’t know how to use it. This second time around, demons that was ruling my marriage are being destroyed. My marriage is better than it ever has been all because of what Christ died to give me…. The Victory!! God Bless!!


The Mystery of Marriage

There is a huge mystery to marriage. It is not like all other relationships. It was the first relationship between humans on earth. The most astounding thing about marriage is that  it is all based on a promise. A promise is spoken and the world gets populated. Adam said “This is now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh”…. and boom you and I are here. Just kidding. But if that did not happen we would not be here. The mystery of marriage is the ability of a promise to produce generations. Words spoken in the presence of God (that is not meant to be broken by the way) is the basis of the marital institution. This oath hold so much weight, but I think we have forgotten it.

I Can’t do Everything

I’ve come to learn that having ambition can be tricky. When you really believe in yourself, you can sometimes think that you can do almost everything. But it’s just not the truth. We, as humans, are limited. This is what I have come to learn as I hit the age of 30. I have learned to focus my ambition on one thing. Not just any one thing, it has to be a passion and purpose for my life. When you are coming into your purpose you have to be careful and patient to make sure you are on clear what it is. It’s like, you have this feeling inside that you have a super power to do great things and if you are impatient, you could do some damage. First off, you could start doing things that does not line up with your purpose in life and never fulfill your real destiny. Second, you will not be as happy doing things that you have no real passion for. Still, you can cause stress on your body because of you’re impatience. So be patient so that you can find out the real purpose for your life and focus more on the one thing than everything. Hope this helps someone. God Bless!

What are you looking at in your Marriage?

I have come to realize that not looking at your spouse can be a good thing for your marriage. No I don’t mean with your natural eyes but with your spiritual ones. Sometimes we put so much energy and focus into our mates that they can take God’s place in our lives. We can allow them to upset us and even ruin our day. We can make ourselves depressed trying to keep them happy. That is of course if we put our marriages before God. See, when God is on the throne in our lives we can look past the faults of humans. We can be more patient with difficult personalities because we lean and depend on God so much more than our mates. God will actually give us insight on our spouses and give us strategies to keep our marriages intact. When we focus too much on humans, the outcome will almost always be disappointment. But when we focus our minds on God we get nothing but perfection.

The bible says, “set your minds on things above, not on things of the earth”(Colossians 3:2). That means that the things of this world is not eternal, and we cannot take anything with us. We are, after all, eternal beings. The things above (God and His kingdom) are forever and what really matters in this life and the one to come. Even though we feel that marriage and family is the most precious things to us, God still comes first. When He is first His spirit in us will teach us how to deal our spouses and family because it can get difficult (as we all know). He will show us how to maintain peace in the midst of unpleasant times. He will keep us stable in unstable times. We can be the rock in our families because we depend on God so much. So I encourage you to look and focus on things above and everything below will be taken care of. God Bless!

What to Expect after God Restores your Marriage

I cannot give detail by detail on how your remarriage to your spouse will go, but I can tell you that you will fight. Yes you read that right, you will have to fight but not with flesh and blood. God hates divorce, but Satan loves it. When your marriage is restored he(Satan) will throw many things your way to get you to ask, “why did I return to this marriage?”. But you know what? Greater is God that is for your marriage than Satan who is against it. You will have to take this mentality with you into your remarriage, if not you may just give up. Trust me when I tell you that all you have to do is lean on God and focus on your relationship with Jesus and not your circumstances. Do not give in to the urges to argue and fight with your spouse. Pray with your spouse and hold your peace. Your enemy is Satan and not your spouse. Continue to love and be patient with flesh and blood, if there is abuse get away from it but still pray from afar. God is bigger than abuse. He can heal any situation if He is asked. Remember God is for staying with your spouse til death, and if you don’t want to stay, His word says “remain unmarried” (1 Corinthians 7:11). He is more than able to restore! God Bless!

How I Trust God in my Marriage

If I didn’t have God in my life, I would not have returned to my husband, Ill just be honest. It was because of the respect I have for God and His word that I came back. I honestly felt that I would find someone else and live happily ever after and God would put His stamp of approval on it. But according to His Word, this is not the way He operates. He is a God of order and we may as well face the fact that we have to follow God’s way of doing things. He honors marriage and He wants us to honor what comes out of our mouths when we say “I do”.  Now that I put His word first in my life, I have seen breakthroughs in my marriage. There is less arguments, and more understanding. There is love and selflessness. We are on a road to a much better marriage than before and it’s all because I chose to honor God’s word and my vows.

My Covenant Will I Not Break…Psalm 89:34

In this section of the book of Psalm, King David’s life circumstances had him feeling like God did not care about him. He felt like God had left him and broken his promises. God promised to establish David’s throne forever. Of course God had a bigger purpose for the throne of David which would be fulfilled through Christ, who came through David’s lineage. But David had no idea how important his throne was. All he could see was his present circumstances, and how much he was going through in life at that time. He didn’t know that God’s promise to be faithful to him was connected to bringing salvation to the whole world through Jesus Christ. God cannot lie, although David questioned God’s promises. We as finite humans have no idea about the depths of God and his plans and promises to us. Things may look like the opposite of what God has promised us. It’s often because God’s plans are so huge and beyond our comprehension that things have to go awry so that we can learn to lean on God and wait for Him. It takes the power away from us, and makes us surrender to God almighty because He ultimately knows the plans He has for us. God Bless!