A Marriage Restored: Unity

I’ve been amazed at the things I’m learning about marriage that I didn’t know before. When my husband and I were first married I didn’t understand that unity in marriage really matters. A successful marriage will consist of two people who function as one person as much as possible. The more I think and care about my husband like he is a part of me, the better I feel in my marriage. The more time I spend with him, the more I like being around him. I have in my mindset that he and I are a team and believe it or not, it rubs off on him. The more I serve him, listen, and treat him like I would want to be treated the more he does it too. I can admit I was a really selfish person (and still working on that).  Selfishness will harm if not end a marriage. So treat your mate as you would treat yourself, because you two are one. God Bless!

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Who’s in Charge in your Marriage?

I will get straight to the point. The man is or should be the boss at home. Let’s face it women, that’s why he’s called a man. I know that they are not perfect, but God has given them this natural ability to be the head. They are naturally genetically equipped to be stronger in physical strength than us women and that ought to be a clue. Now if you have a somewhat immature mate, bear with him. Let him get use to making good decisions for the family. Once he sees your willingness to let him lead he will definitely take note. And ladies, it will take a load of stress off of our precious selves from overdoing it and making all the decisions in the marriage and for the family. Today’s women are doing a lot. Working 5 days a week, taking care of kids, paying the bills, taking care of ourselves, and on top of that we are asked by our husbands to cook, clean, and make love to him frequently (and if we don’t we are called bad wives smh). This can take a toll on us in the long run and possibly have a bad effect on the relationship, and we want our marriages to stay together people! If it’s not in your DNA to let a man lead then ask God to show you where to start. God will definitely step in and you will see results little by little. This process requires patience and selflessness. Remember this is for the benefit of you, your marriage, and your family. God Bless!

Want to get your Ex Spouse Back?…. My Book coming Soon

Yes people I have written a book. There is a secret to marriage that a lot of people don’t know about. Do you know how valuable your marriage covenant is? Did you know that God will do supernatural things to help you keep or restore your marriage if you ask Him? I’m talking about REAL legalized marriages. Not the mate you’ve been living with for 15 years (sorry but I must be honest). I am living proof that no matter how bad the marriage situation is, even in the case of divorce, God will work. The heart of God would like to see marriages restored and He’s willing to help those that will humble themselves and ask for His help. My new book will show you how He worked in my life and how He could do the same for you. God bless!

Shhh Be Quiet… Learn to be Quiet in your Marriage

I love to give my opinions and advice to help others. But I’ve noticed that this is not always the best thing to do in marriages. Sometimes we like to drill our mates and quickly correct them when we know they are wrong. This can add stress to the relationship, especially if the one needing correction is not prone to receiving it with gratitude. This is when the who is giving the advice or correction should just be quiet. I’ve learned to be quiet (and pray)and let God do the talking to my mate, it’s more effective and it takes a load of stress off the relationship. It also taught me to be patient enough to let my mate learn on his own. So he’s learning to hear God and I learn patience. We both win this way. God bless!

What I Learned from Breastfeeding

Last night I was at work, and I had to rush back home because my newborn son was screaming at the top of his lungs. He wasn’t ill nor his diaper wet, he wanted mommy and her natural feeding capabilities (if you know what I mean). I was trying to both bottle feed and breastfeed, but as I quickly learned, the breast is more favorable to a baby. Believe it or not, the topic of breastfeeding is controversial. One would think that something as natural as feeding her own child should be the most welcomed, understood subject. But not so in this working mom society. It’s almost shunned upon in a way. Breastfeeding is showing me how much a baby needs it’s mom and the comfort/nurture we bring. Babies are forced to be away from this safe haven when mom has to work . This is highly accepted among adults. But what about our children?

Why I’m Homeschooling my Children

Homeschooling? I know some of you are like “girl you crazy” but I decided that I want to give homeschooling a try. I’ve started reading aloud to my kids and doing activities with them and I see benefits already. I get to teach behavioral skills and allow them to volunteer at the library, under my supervision. Believe it or not kids need so much guidance and structure and the best people to get it from are parents. We are God-given instructors. Teachers in the school system are good but nothing compares to the luxury of having a parent for a teacher. The genuine love they feel from the parent motivates kids to learn and do their best. I notice that my oldest is a hands on learner. She loves to help and volunteer and is good at math. My middle child is an excellent reader and it just comes natural to her without much help from me. I’m learning what my children’s strengths are and focusing on those more instead of pressuring them to get better at their weaknesses, which can be very stressful for young children. So with the help of God I will continue this new journey and see where it leads, with what I’m seeing so far I believe I’ve made the right choice.

How I deal with Motherhood

I enjoy my children. I like dressing them up, teaching them things, and listening to how intelligent they are. But, the reality is, it is one of the most (probably the most) challenging job for a woman. The hardest thing about it is almost all of your attention and care is toward your children when they are young. There is barely time for yourself throughout the day. The way I’ve come to look at motherhood is as an investment. The more time you spend teaching and being with your kids, the better teenagers and ultimately adults they will be. Just think about it. If I spend time teaching my kids how to clean, give them chores, show them how to fear God, correct them when they’re wrong the better the return I will receive from their behavior and actions when they are older. Even if I’ve done all that I could do as a parent and my kids still behave different from what I’ve taught, I can be guilt free because I’ve done my part. But the sooner you teach your child the more it will stick with them throughout adulthood. The bible says, “train up a child in the way that he should go, and when he is older he will not depart from it.” So ladies look at motherhood as an investment for your kids future and not always as a difficult burdensome task. It’s also an investment for you because the more prepared your kids are for adulthood, the more you will be able to relax in the future. God bless!!