I love to give my opinions and advice to help others. But I’ve noticed that this is not always the best thing to do in marriages. Sometimes we like to drill our mates and quickly correct them when we know they are wrong. This can add stress to the relationship, especially if the one needing correction is not prone to receiving it with gratitude. This is when the who is giving the advice or correction should just be quiet. I’ve learned to be quiet (and pray)and let God do the talking to my mate, it’s more effective and it takes a load of stress off the relationship. It also taught me to be patient enough to let my mate learn on his own. So he’s learning to hear God and I learn patience. We both win this way. God bless!
Last night I was at work, and I had to rush back home because my newborn son was screaming at the top of his lungs. He wasn’t ill nor his diaper wet, he wanted mommy and her natural feeding capabilities (if you know what I mean). I was trying to both bottle feed and breastfeed, but as I quickly learned, the breast is more favorable to a baby. Believe it or not, the topic of breastfeeding is controversial. One would think that something as natural as feeding her own child should be the most welcomed, understood subject. But not so in this working mom society. It’s almost shunned upon in a way. Breastfeeding is showing me how much a baby needs it’s mom and the comfort/nurture we bring. Babies are forced to be away from this safe haven when mom has to work . This is highly accepted among adults. But what about our children?
Homeschooling? I know some of you are like “girl you crazy” but I decided that I want to give homeschooling a try. I’ve started reading aloud to my kids and doing activities with them and I see benefits already. I get to teach behavioral skills and allow them to volunteer at the library, under my supervision. Believe it or not kids need so much guidance and structure and the best people to get it from are parents. We are God-given instructors. Teachers in the school system are good but nothing compares to the luxury of having a parent for a teacher. The genuine love they feel from the parent motivates kids to learn and do their best. I notice that my oldest is a hands on learner. She loves to help and volunteer and is good at math. My middle child is an excellent reader and it just comes natural to her without much help from me. I’m learning what my children’s strengths are and focusing on those more instead of pressuring them to get better at their weaknesses, which can be very stressful for young children. So with the help of God I will continue this new journey and see where it leads, with what I’m seeing so far I believe I’ve made the right choice.
I enjoy my children. I like dressing them up, teaching them things, and listening to how intelligent they are. But, the reality is, it is one of the most (probably the most) challenging job for a woman. The hardest thing about it is almost all of your attention and care is toward your children when they are young. There is barely time for yourself throughout the day. The way I’ve come to look at motherhood is as an investment. The more time you spend teaching and being with your kids, the better teenagers and ultimately adults they will be. Just think about it. If I spend time teaching my kids how to clean, give them chores, show them how to fear God, correct them when they’re wrong the better the return I will receive from their behavior and actions when they are older. Even if I’ve done all that I could do as a parent and my kids still behave different from what I’ve taught, I can be guilt free because I’ve done my part. But the sooner you teach your child the more it will stick with them throughout adulthood. The bible says, “train up a child in the way that he should go, and when he is older he will not depart from it.” So ladies look at motherhood as an investment for your kids future and not always as a difficult burdensome task. It’s also an investment for you because the more prepared your kids are for adulthood, the more you will be able to relax in the future. God bless!!
One thing that I truly know about God is that He is a man of His word. No if ands or buts. I recently just reconciled my marriage, and everything that I believed God for has happened. Somehow I knew the blessings of the Lord would follow me after I obeyed His voice to come back to my husband. God has blessed me and my husband to become pregnant wih our first boy! There are many other things that we have prayed for that are happeing as well and we are truly greatful. Putting God’s word at the forefront of my life has been challenging. This is because everything in His Word (the bible) has to be taken by faith and can sometimes seem impossible with life’s circumstances. I can honestly say that I have and am still trying His word out and it is working wonders in my life. Try it out for yourself!!!
I am shocked and amazed right now. I cannot believe that me and my husband are making things work, getting along, and developing more passion for each other. Just four years ago I left him and never thought I’d look back. But, God saw otherwise.
I had lost all my attraction and feelings for him, and I assumed it had to be over. But in a marriage covenant even loosing attraction is not a valid reason to leave. Attractions, believe it or not can come, leave, and come back again. This is what I am now learning. I am also learning that marriage is sacred and there is a special blessing on a marriage relationship. God takes marriage very seriously and is willing to help with any problem in marriage, if only we would take our problems to Him through prayer. A lot of people give up on their marriage without giving God (the creator/expert on marriage if you will) the chance to intervene and help fix problems.
…To be Continued
I’ve learned that marriage is not just something you could throw away because of “irreconcilable differences”. I’ve learned that the benefits of marriage outweigh the problems that have to be worked through in it. The “building” in marriage is what’s to be cherished. The family that is created from it and the lifelong partnership are miracles to behold. I’ve learned that God is the glue and His Word can be used as a guide to keep a marriage afloat. I’ve learned that the world’s view of marriage has been tainted, possibly by an outside force that hates anything established by God (Satan). I’ve learned that almost any marriage is repairable. I’ve learned and am still learning that marriage is good.